Let Him Have a Man Cave!

I read a great article about a guy who built a small cabin for him and his man friends to hang out in.  They call it “The Ponderosa.”  If you read the article, you’ll find out the cabin is substantially less than–how shall I say–functional.  There is no plumbing.  No power.  The roof leaks. But somehow, this only adds to its charm.

I immediately thought that a man cave–a place where men can get away from everything and kick back with their friends over a cold one–was a great idea.  Men need a place where they can be away from, well, women.  I mean this as a compliment when I say men are simple creatures.  They don’t need much to be happy. They have a few basic needs that, when fulfilled, pretty much keep them on an even keel.  We all know there are exceptions, but in general they’re easy to please.

So, I was shocked and surprised to see several comments at the end of the article from some bitter, bitter women claiming that these men were either immature or stupid for wanting a man cave.  EXCUSE ME, but what is wrong with wanting a man cave?

I’ll just ignore the man-bashing comments, but I would like the address the many women who wondered why men would want to “get away” from their wives.

Well, women of the WOL, if you have to ask that question, then I have some rather distressing news to share with you:  Your husband needs a man cave because he needs an escape from your controlling him, as in saying he can’t have a man cave!

Come on ladies, all the guys want is a place where they can laugh and fart freely  as loud as they want.  If they do that at home you probably yell at them, so why wouldn’t you want them to have a place where they can do it where they won’t annoy you?

Some objected on the grounds that the men shouldn’t be leaving their families to go carousing with their buddies.  Well, I think the point here is that you should marry a man you can trust.  If you marry a decent guy, you won’t have to worry about him being an idiot when he’s more than 50 yards away from you.  So, an occasional weekend or Saturday away with the guys is no cause for concern. If, on the other hand, you marry a loser, well…that’s really YOUR problem, not his.  He doesn’t have a problem with his loser behavior and you married him anyway.  Lesson to be learned: don’t marry someone thinking you can change him.

Finally, I think some women are secretly jealous that their hubbies have found a cool, inexpensive way to have fun with their guy friends.  So maybe, just maybe, the real solution here is the old adage, “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.”  Build a woman cave!  

And that’s all I’m going to say about that.